Food for thought.
I saw this from Venerable S.Dhammika's. And I thought, "wow.. how true..." Sometimes we misinterpret our friend's good intentions from their harsh words.
How can one get rid of ill-will towards a person whose behavior is good but whose speech is not? Imagine a man exhausted and overcome by heat, wearied, gasping and thirsty were to come upon a pool over covered with moss and water plants. He would dive in, spread the water plants with his hands, then cup his hand, drink and quench his thirst. Like this the person's unpleasant speech aught to be ignored and one should focus on his good behavior (A.III,187).
- The Buddha